I hate when kids are sick.

As a father of two, I believe one of the worst feelings I get is when my kids are sick.  I feel awful about it because I can’t do anything to make them feel much better.  My girls are 4 and almost 2 and I believe I need to figure out a way to cope with them being sick because naturally as part of life, I have a lifetime of illnesses that I will be dealing with.

The reason this came to mind is because my oldest one is currently sick and spent all day yesterday just laying there.  Mrs. Z took good care of her, but at work, I  was thinking about her all day.  It definitely stresses me out and distracts me from other items I’m trying to accomplish.

So as an experienced Dad of 4.5 years… what are the techniques you won’t be able to find anywhere else to make a sick child feel better?  Feeding them ice cream and letting them watch movies all day.  My philosophy of being sick, is medicine doesn’t do much of anything.  The real healer is time.  Unfortunately, when my kids are sick, I get impatient.  I think I am older, I can tolerate the grogginess, fever, cold, runny nose, sore throat.  I know kids are tougher than you think, maybe tougher than adults, but as a parent, natural instinct is to protect them.  When they are sick, I feel like I haven’t done my job as a parent from protecting them from germs.  I know this is all crazy talk, but I tend to be a bit of worry wort when it comes to certain things.

So how can I, as a parent, feel less guilty about kids being sick?  How can I go about my day doing the daily functions without having a dark cloud over my head?  Since I believe I understand life pretty well, I have come to the following conclusion to try to make me feel less anxious about this particular situation.

Kids being sick is out of our control most of the time.  And my personal philosophy is that anything that is out of out control, you can’t worry about.  It’s tough not to worry, I get it.

For instance, I begin to think about the ramifications of the oldest one being sick, than the younger one will probably be sick, daycare solutions can be a problem because we don’t want others to get sick, appetites are not the same, deciding what medicine to provide to them, should we send them to a doctor.  The worries and decisions seem to be endless when you constantly think about it.

But, if I take a step back and try to think about it again.  You can’t control your kid being sick.  It takes time to get better.  If you spend time worrying, will this make your child feel better?  No, and I understand this.  You do your best as a parent, provide everything you can.  There is no magic wand I can wave to make her feel better instantly and not be sick.  I will do what every parent has the ability to do which is love her.

Max 10.01.2013


My Future Wife is Sick

My younger daughter was sick and now my future wife has been sick since Sunday night.  One of the worst feelings I have in life is when something is out of my control and there is nothing I can do to help the situation.

I know that when I am sick, it makes me feel better just having someone ask if I need anything else.  Remember the days when you were a kid and your mom would ask you what else you needed.  It was a great feeling that you definitely didn’t appreciate enough having someone take care of you.  I believe the feeling you got and how much your parents took care of you when you were sick is how you should take care of your partner.

When she felt under the weather on Sunday, I send her straight to bed while I took care of everything else with kiddos.  Sometimes I know rest does just the trick to help you recover, unfortunately, this was not the case and now it was Monday and I had to go to work.  How am I supposed to take of my lover when I am at work or she has to go to work.  She felt better yesterday but now back to coughing her face off.  I wish I could not go to work and just take care of her all day, unfortunately, that opportunity does not present itself to me.

However, if you are someone that has a significant other that feels sick, and you are able to take care of him/her (for instance on the weekend) – I think you should do everything in your power to relieve the feeling of them being sick.  I know the feeling I get when I’m being taken care off is very special.  You feel loved, well cared off and most importantly – it’s the feeling you get that you KNOW you can grow old with that person.

Max 08.13.13