Death & Appreciation

I don’t ask this often but please share this.  Death & Appreciation.  Both extremely difficult topics for me to write about.  Death, because I’m not very good at dealing with it.  Appreciation, because I feel like most people don’t have any appreciation in life and it makes me feel bitter about it.

I woke up this morning knowing it was going to be a long day ahead of me.  I wanted to keep sleeping, to not deal with today.  Yesterday brought 12 hours of work, followed by laundry, dishes and dinner, taking the garbage out, and than more work.  I stayed up till almost 2am, and finished watching the last episode of Season 1 of Revenge (great show by the way).  Back to today, waking up, I woke up feeling mentally and physically, and in a way, unappreciated.  So why was I not looking forward to today?  I had a full day of work (busy time for quarter close at my job), I wanted to make sure to get home on time for the family Bears time, and I had a funeral to attend during the day.  Unfortunately, I felt as though there wasn’t enough time in the day to get everything done, especially on 5 hours of sleep.  As I looked ahead to the day, I couldn’t help but feel down.  Than something happened… something great.

My wife, Mrs. Z, text me a picture of all the things she appreciates about me.  It’s like she read my mind and knew exactly what I needed.  All the things I read made my heart feel happy.  I felt appreciated.  I felt loved.  I felt as though I could take on the world at this point.  To get a note, email, text of all the things you love and/or appreciate about your significant other when you least expect it, is amazing!  It really turned my day upside down.  However, I still had a funeral to attend to.  This person was like a grandpa to me (he was my grandfather’s sister husband), who actually invited my mom, me, and my grandparents (my immediate family) to the states from Kiev, Ukraine.  I knew him well and respect him and found out the other night, he passed away at the age of 85.  Now, my opinion is that if you live until 85, you should be grateful.  Now I know that you should be appreciative as well.

Attending this funeral this afternoon was difficult.  I cried as I hugged his daughter (my aunt), I cried as I hugged his son (who I don’t see often but know him well enough), I cried as his granddaughter gave a speech about him, and I cried as the casket was lowered.  And as I looked over at my grandfather, I thought to myself how impossible it will be to deal with his death, and tears just began rolling down my face uncontrollably.

As I made it through that, I made my way back to work and have continued grinding it out until just now.  I’m waiting for a report to get done, and will pack it up to make it just in time for the Bears game.  After all of today, here is what you all need to know.  Things I’m learning that I never thought I would.

I learned today one reason to get married is to have a support system 24-7.  My wife comforted me, she was loving, and that means everything to me.  Death comes so fast, yet it seems that day may never come.  Everyday here on Earth needs to be appreciated because tomorrow, death may come get you.  So don’t waste your time with bullshit (sorry for the language), instead of complaining, being unhappy, criticizing, judging, being lazy – go do something with yourself.  Go serve some sort of purpose in this world.  Each of us are born so insignificant and die insignificant.  We are remembered by some and soon forgotten through generations.  But we have an option to make a difference, to enjoy life, to appreciate things.  I consider myself a positive, energetic person but I feel like I have more and I’m wasting it.  It’s time to make a difference.

I want to spend more time writing.  I want to spread my word.  I want to provide advice.  I want to help people.  I want to give people energy, positivity, love.  I’m not sure how I’m going to do this yet, but I believe this is what I’m meant for and with the support of Mrs. Z now, knowing she got my back no matter what, I will get there.  I will make a difference.  I will appreciate and when death comes for me, I will be ready and know that I did all I can here.

I don’t ask this often but as I mentioned at the top, please share this.  This post is for Alexander… I love you and respect you.  Your memory lives on with me forever.

Max 10.10.2013


Wake Up & Create More Time

As we continue to do this blog which I have really enjoyed, I keep thinking to myself how I wish we had more time to do this.  I decided over the past few weeks since we have started this that I really enjoy writing, and hope to get better at it and be more entertaining in my posts.  I love that I can provide advice to relationships, having kids, being healthy and just enjoying life.  I love to get feedback so as we continue to do this, I will keep striving to obtain more followers so I can continue to spread what I believe will be the best blog for advice around.  I believe the key to this is persistence, determination, consistency and patience.  Plus of course continued kick ass advice!

So the question is if I love doing this so much, why don’t I spend more time doing it?  How can I make more time to myself for writing?  How can I spend more time reading others blogs and providing my feedback?  Well, my time is limited, I know this.  I’m at work trying to be the best employee, following by being home attempting to be the best Dad, and finally trying to be the best husband to be to my significant other to make her life easier by helping her do the daily tasks such as cooking, cleaning, etc.  So with a full plate, when am I supposed to have time to write?  As I thought about this on my drive in to work, I think I may have figured it out.

I need to wake up the heck up.  I need to wake up much earlier than I do right now.  My usual morning routine is waking up an hour or so earlier than I am supposed to be at work.  This gives me enough time to shower, get ready and drive to work.  I came to the realization that if I can wake up earlier, I can create more time for myself.  I constantly hear society complain about not having enough time.  “I don’t have enough time to work out.” “I don’t have enough time to cook dinner, so I pick up fast food.” “I don’t have enough time to practice piano and do what I inspire to do.” 

So what now?  We need to take action.  We need to not just talk about it, but do something about it.  So I may be busy all day but I am definitely not giving everything I got in the morning so waking up an hour or two earlier, getting to work earlier or sitting on the laptop at home and spend some time just writing/reading.  By doing this, I believe you to satisfy yourself in whatever you like to do, for me it will be writing.  For you, it can be working out, making a dinner dish in the morning, reading a book – it can be anything you don’t have time for during the day but it needs to be “your time”.

I found a great article I listed below on tips to waking up early by 

I also listed a few other articles that I found interesting related to this topic.  So let’s do this together, wake up earlier, track our progress, be more productive and live life to the fullest and doing the things we love.

08.28.13 – Max